This one is for Oliver
I think in all my ranting and commenting about everything and everyone I have quite overlooked the one and only who's responsible for me being at home....Oliver.
I have written remarkably little about my new born son, caught in all kind of other things and now it is time to set things right.
I have a creeping feeling that between a drama queen sister, a workoholic mother and an absent minded father, Oliver will have pretty much to fend for himself in life. He is probably also already aware of that because you can see that he wisely (differently from his sister random screaming) uses his considerable screaming power only for the things that really count in life, being fed, being changed and being picked up.
Aside from these situations he is generally calm and studying the environment around him. He doesn't mind being shoved around to all of Nora's activities, he keeps calm in his maxi cosi and enjoys the diversion without protesting. In fact he is so quiet that I am always afraid that one time I might forget him somewhere.
A few words about his appearance. He definitely has my eyes (much darker than Nora's) and the characteristic receding airline of his father, for the rest he still looks a lot like Nora when she was a baby. In stipe of all the alarms that went off during the pregnancy he is not a fat baby at all.
He sleeps well at night but he definitely demands his feeding every three hours,which seems like a fair compromise. I can live with that. I think that if he will continue with this attitude we will definitely get along very well. He has some kind of professional charm. He seems like saying "I need to be charming so that you will take good care of me".
I have to really confirm what everybody seems to say anyway, parents are a way more relaxed with their second borns than they are with their first borns. I think the reason why is that you realize that a lot of things are not under your control anyway so you can as well let go. This gives a very relaxed feeling. For me the most important realization was that at this age there is not building up a consistent cause effect relation between what you do and how the baby reacts. It is always different and tricks that work one day will not work the next. So I spare myself a lot of disappointment in thinking to have found the Holy Grail of trick and then finding out that it is not true.
For the rest I will spare you the routine of feeding, changing, craddling, because this more or less as much as Oliver does so far. It will take some time before he will start doing something interesting, but it is good to know that he is doing now everything he is supposed to do!
I have written remarkably little about my new born son, caught in all kind of other things and now it is time to set things right.
I have a creeping feeling that between a drama queen sister, a workoholic mother and an absent minded father, Oliver will have pretty much to fend for himself in life. He is probably also already aware of that because you can see that he wisely (differently from his sister random screaming) uses his considerable screaming power only for the things that really count in life, being fed, being changed and being picked up.
Aside from these situations he is generally calm and studying the environment around him. He doesn't mind being shoved around to all of Nora's activities, he keeps calm in his maxi cosi and enjoys the diversion without protesting. In fact he is so quiet that I am always afraid that one time I might forget him somewhere.
A few words about his appearance. He definitely has my eyes (much darker than Nora's) and the characteristic receding airline of his father, for the rest he still looks a lot like Nora when she was a baby. In stipe of all the alarms that went off during the pregnancy he is not a fat baby at all.
He sleeps well at night but he definitely demands his feeding every three hours,which seems like a fair compromise. I can live with that. I think that if he will continue with this attitude we will definitely get along very well. He has some kind of professional charm. He seems like saying "I need to be charming so that you will take good care of me".
I have to really confirm what everybody seems to say anyway, parents are a way more relaxed with their second borns than they are with their first borns. I think the reason why is that you realize that a lot of things are not under your control anyway so you can as well let go. This gives a very relaxed feeling. For me the most important realization was that at this age there is not building up a consistent cause effect relation between what you do and how the baby reacts. It is always different and tricks that work one day will not work the next. So I spare myself a lot of disappointment in thinking to have found the Holy Grail of trick and then finding out that it is not true.
For the rest I will spare you the routine of feeding, changing, craddling, because this more or less as much as Oliver does so far. It will take some time before he will start doing something interesting, but it is good to know that he is doing now everything he is supposed to do!
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