Fathers and sons
I need to get this feeling of unfairness out of my system, hopefully this post will help.
During the last nine months ((actually it goes back much longer than that) of growing pains and discomfort, I also had a growing feeling of how nature has been unfair to women letting them completely alone in such an unconfortable task as it is putting children into this world.
Of course in the world of today you can never blame nature alone, since society butts its nose almost into anything.
In this specific case society, expecially here in the Netherlands tries desperately to make this baby making business a task to be equally shared by men and women. These trials are as much pathetic as they are useless since they are the wrong ones.
I am asking you what exactly is the point in dragging your husband to breastfeeding course on a Champions League night or teaching him how to breath during delivery, during a partner lesson at the pregnancy yoga training? I think you get it, there is no point whatsoever!
I was therefore quite glad that my own husband did not waste his energy into the above mentioned nonsense but he put all the had into finishing the redecoration of the children rooms. Given his limited options he made the right choice to make me feel better!
What if society would do other things to have the load be shared a bit more equally? I am trowing out there a couple of politically incorrect statements (my two favourite ones, some of you might undoubtedly have already heard them) see if you can bear with me.
- Why not force also men into 16 weeks of obligatory pregnancy leave together with their partners?
- Why not ditching breast feeding altogether? Bottle feeding is completely gender unrelated after all!
I am sure if you think about it a little bit you would also come up with more (and possibly better) ways to share the load. I am challenging you now, as you know my blog is open for comments!
After all we want also to step away from a society that exposes children to the exclusive care of women, who in the end grow our baby boys into accomplished metro-sexuals (not that I have much against metro-sexuals, the do dress well!). Maybe it would not be too bad to give a real chance for fathers to really bond with their children and to mothers to be equal member of society without having to pull and extremely heavy carriage.
Our nurse was also charged with the difficult task to involve the father into the care of the baby, unfortunately she was also equipped with very limited ammunitions, I cannot really blame her. Check the pics to see the results of her efforts.
During the last nine months ((actually it goes back much longer than that) of growing pains and discomfort, I also had a growing feeling of how nature has been unfair to women letting them completely alone in such an unconfortable task as it is putting children into this world.
Of course in the world of today you can never blame nature alone, since society butts its nose almost into anything.
In this specific case society, expecially here in the Netherlands tries desperately to make this baby making business a task to be equally shared by men and women. These trials are as much pathetic as they are useless since they are the wrong ones.
I am asking you what exactly is the point in dragging your husband to breastfeeding course on a Champions League night or teaching him how to breath during delivery, during a partner lesson at the pregnancy yoga training? I think you get it, there is no point whatsoever!
I was therefore quite glad that my own husband did not waste his energy into the above mentioned nonsense but he put all the had into finishing the redecoration of the children rooms. Given his limited options he made the right choice to make me feel better!
What if society would do other things to have the load be shared a bit more equally? I am trowing out there a couple of politically incorrect statements (my two favourite ones, some of you might undoubtedly have already heard them) see if you can bear with me.
- Why not force also men into 16 weeks of obligatory pregnancy leave together with their partners?
- Why not ditching breast feeding altogether? Bottle feeding is completely gender unrelated after all!
I am sure if you think about it a little bit you would also come up with more (and possibly better) ways to share the load. I am challenging you now, as you know my blog is open for comments!
After all we want also to step away from a society that exposes children to the exclusive care of women, who in the end grow our baby boys into accomplished metro-sexuals (not that I have much against metro-sexuals, the do dress well!). Maybe it would not be too bad to give a real chance for fathers to really bond with their children and to mothers to be equal member of society without having to pull and extremely heavy carriage.
Our nurse was also charged with the difficult task to involve the father into the care of the baby, unfortunately she was also equipped with very limited ammunitions, I cannot really blame her. Check the pics to see the results of her efforts.
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